Your Feelings and Raising Children
To All My Children From Your Mom,
I was thinking about your parenting questions from yesterday and I wanted to share something with you that may make a profound difference of how you look at your feelings and raising children.
Children are going to love you the same way you love your dad. Think about that for a minute. Children will adore you when they’re little, children will rebel as they grow, children will hate you at times, criticize you for everything they deem as wrong in your and their life and their upbringing, children will move on to thinking they know everything better than you and that you’re outdated and that they will do it so much better in their own life. And finally, children will have kids and the cycle will repeat itself.
It’s called the generation gap, it happened to my parents and I, it happened to your dad and his parents and to all of my grown children in regards to me. It is the most normal thing in the world.
All the love that you give your children will be remembered as a feeling of comfort and security. All the boundaries you set will be remembered as a feeling of: Dad is non-negotiable … and that is what you will need when they are age 10 and up 🙂
Keep that whole picture in mind at all times, enjoy your children now as much as you can and don’t take anything personal. Children respect you for your boundaries and they will always love you in their own way – what ever stage they will be in. You are the parent – not their friend, and a time-out, in my opinion, is still the best option for discipline.
With much love, Mom (and Dad)